This is the tenth post in my monthly purge project update. To find out more about the purge project and to follow along from the beginning click here.
Umm…I forgot to purge last month. OK, no, that’s not entirely true. I have been purging, but not anywhere near the same level that I have been.
Purging is difficult and frustrating. I really, truly, want to be happy with one pair of jeans because if I’m being honest with myself, I tend to wear the same pair of jeans over and over and over anyway, so really why do I need more? But then I look at my wardrobe and I think “oh Jeez everyone’s already seen me in that same boring gray t-shirt a million times”. I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t notice if a friend of mine wore the same thing day after day, but it’s still something that I think about. And it makes me look and feel lazy.
And the holidays are getting away from me. We haven’t been spending that much money on gifts and for the most part, I am really proud of my resourcefulness in my gift giving this year. But next year we have to set a budget. It’s really easy to say “oh this is a gift for the house” or “I need X or Y baby item for T, so we’ll count is as a his Christmas present this year”. There’s nothing wrong with that, but setting a limit is important.
What I’m starting to realize, is that as the years go on, we change. What is oh-so-important to me at the beginning of the year (or even month for that matter), doesn’t mean anything later on. That’s fine. We can’t all stay the same all the time. That would be so boring. Purging is good, but there’s no reason to go overboard. I know I’ll have to reign myself in after the holidays, but for now I’m enjoying the gifting season.
In the end, I think the conclusion I can reach on the purge project is this: balance. Finding a good balance between living in the moment and carefully planning out the things we bring into the house is key to my happiness. Even though I dislike stuff and often have a bit of buyer’s remorse in the weeks after making a purchase, I do get some pleasure from the occasional cash register purchase. And there’s no reason to deny myself something that makes me happy.